October 15, 2014
I just love this so much.

I just love this so much.

August 26, 2014
I took a quiz to figure out the “career I was meant for” and I think the answer is all the proof we need that online quizzes are a scam.

I took a quiz to figure out the “career I was meant for” and I think the answer is all the proof we need that online quizzes are a scam.

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Filed under: image quizzes internet 
August 19, 2014
The Economics of Police Militarism

Sarah Stillman, writing for The New Yorker, on the ways in which the economics of policing people directly inform the ways in which those people think about and approach the police:

"In reckoning with police militarization, the economic side of the phenomenon should be considered. The connection may not be obvious to those who’ve never had the gas or water or electricity in their homes shut off. But these forces operate in tandem—the tear gas and the tickets; the weaponry and the warrants—compromising a wide range of fundamental rights that seem, in Ferguson and beyond, to have gone up in smoke." 

August 18, 2014
What I Saw in Ferguson

Jelani Cobb, writing for The New Yorker, is doing important work documenting and analyzing what’s going on in Ferguson. He writes, “There is a feedback loop of recrimination playing in the streets of Ferguson. With the thinnest of rationales, the police here responded to community anger in the self-justifying language of force, under circumstances that call for a more humane tongue.”

August 18, 2014
"Essential feminism suggests anger, humorlessness, militancy, unwavering principles, and a prescribed set of rules for how to be a proper feminist woman, or at least a proper white, heterosexual, feminist woman—hate pornography, unilaterally decry the objectification of women, don’t cater to the male gaze, hate men, hate sex, focus on career, don’t shave. I kid, mostly, with that last one. This is nowhere near an accurate description of feminism, but the movement has been warped by misperception for so long that even people who should know better have bought into this essential image of feminism."

Bad Feminist | VQR Online

August 1, 2014

How we choose to see things dictates how we’ll experience them. Would you rather see everything as precious or pointless?

If we can choose the former, we can recognize that every loss provides opportunities for future gains—new relationships, experiences, and ways of being that may fulfill us in ways we can’t possibly predict.


Overcoming the Fear of Loss: 5 Steps to Get Unstuck

July 29, 2014
Why does neutrality have to seem so angry?

A couple of years ago I read a McSweeney’s piece about the exclamation mark that changed my thinking forever. The writer, a woman by the name of Courtenay Hameister, quoted a study by Carol Waseleski titled, “Gender and the Use of Exclamation Points in Computer Mediated Communication,” 

"… [the study] deciphered that women use exclamation points 45% more often than men in e-communication. But it’s not because we’re more excited than men. Women use exclamation points online as indicators of a “friendly interaction.” We’ve been socialized to try to make people feel comfortable and to keep the peace. Hence sentences like, “Bill, I can’t wait to see the 4th quarter EMBO Report on the new 12-gauge ball bearings!”

She’s not excited to see that report. No one is excited to see that report. She’s letting Bill know that she’s not angry that it’s late yet. When she’s angry, she’ll use a period.

After reading the piece and those unbelievable and really bummer statistics, I decided to stop using that punctuation mark unless I really meant it. Now I am often accused of writing ‘angry’ emails because they seem to lack all the exclamation marks and therefore friendly demeanor within everyone else’s. I can’t win and this New Republic piece helps explain why:

Now, however, technology has led us to use written language more like speechthat is, in a real-time, back-and-forth between two or more people. “[P]eople are communicating like they are talking, but encoding that talk in writing,” Clay Shirky recently told Slate. This might help explain the rise of the line break: It allows people to more accurately emulate in writing the rhythm of speech. It has also confronted people with the problem of tone in writing, and they’re trying to solve it with the familiar punctuation marks that the line break largely displaced.


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Filed under: reading musings 
July 24, 2014

Sick beat and so good even though I don’t know half of what is being said. 

(Source: Spotify)

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Filed under: music 
July 24, 2014
Lunchtime Convo with the SO

Me: What’s your blood type?
SO: The best type.
[Maniacal laughter from both of us.]
Me: No, I’m serious! What is it?
SO: Babe, I’m only 37. I don’t need to know that kind of stuff yet.

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Filed under: family love chats 
July 22, 2014

The video for the Anthony and the Johnsons song ‘Cut the World’ was directed by hotshot video director Nabil and it reminded me of an obscure 1982 Dutch feminist film directed by Marleen Gorris titled, A Question of Silence. I have to believe that Nabil has seen this film and is paying homage to it.

The song lyrics evoke the question that is the basis of the film:

For so long I’ve obeyed that feminine decree
I’ve always contained your desire to hurt me

But when will I turn and cut the world?

My eyes are coral, absorbing your dreams
My heart is a record of dangerous scenes
My skin is a surface to push to extremes

But when will I turn and cut the world?

Both the video and the film show seemingly random and psychotic acts of violence by women against men, but these acts are not unpacked or investigated. There seems to be no answer as to why a woman would want to murder an ‘innocent’ man. 

But if you are a woman reading this right now, I imagine you know the answer to that question. And if you are not a woman, then the act likely seems inexplicable, unwarranted. In order to explain, I’d suggest you ask a woman about her life, what she has experienced living as a woman every day. Swap stories about commuting in subway cars or walking down the street or having a boss that calls you ‘sweetie’. Once you do a little digging, you might understand what Antony and Gorris are talking around, and you might even sympathize.

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Filed under: feminism film video music